Coaching vs. Self-Coaching

Coaching Levels

Principles of Coaching

At some time in life, you are likely to experience health or life changes and transitions that come with pain, unhappiness or discontent. This is often a signal that something different needs to happen in your life. This may also illuminate a need for coaching.

The depth of your current challenge, habits, underlying beliefs or behaviors coupled with how ready you are to make a change will determine whether you will need formal coaching or will be able to apply self-coaching principles to move you from where you are to where you would like to be.

If you determine you are ready and can tackle the thing that no longer serves you and who you want to be, applying self-coaching principles is for you.

If you determine your motivation for change is low, you have obstacles or feel too stuck to take a first step, formal coaching may be for you. Click here to schedule an introductory session with me.

Either way, you will need to embrace the following five principles to move you from a place that no longer serves you to cultivating and sustaining the habits and behaviors you want and ultimately living your best and healthiest life:

1. Embracing Change and Transition
  • Coaching is all about change and transition.
  • Changing how you spend your time so you’re more fulfilled
  • Changing your habits and behaviors so you have more energy
  • Transitioning to doing more of what's working in your life—and doing less of or stopping entirely what’s not working.
  • Possibly comprehensively changing the direction of your life

Change and transitions are rarely easy. However, consistently increasing your self-awareness can make the process much easier by allowing us to make different choices, both in the moment and over time.

2. Self-Acceptance

Accepting yourself is ultimately the most important aspect of coaching. While a desire for change may cause you to initiate your efforts, an inability to accept and love yourself—right now, as you are, with all your flaws and foibles intact—condemns you to an endless cycle of pain, unhappiness and discontent. The most profound coaching imaginable can't overcome this obstacle, so you ultimately have to work towards accepting yourself.

3. Compassionate Awareness and Accountability

Compassionate awareness and accountability help you raise your sense of ownership of where you are and where you would like to be.

Often the first step in any coaching is bringing to light an awareness that you’re not where you’d like to be in any given area/s of life. Awareness is consistently and compassionately observing your thoughts and actions. Awareness is your “point A” or honest assessment of where you currently are in life and what is happening or not happening.

Accepting accountability for your actions means you are taking responsibility for them.

Together, these principles will help you make the small shifts and realistic improvements you want to make.

4. Vision and Why

Where you would like to be is your vision, and why you would like to be there is the underlying rationale for the changes you seek to make. Cultivating a vision is key to knowing where you ultimately would like to end up: your “point B,” meaning, what would you like to have happen or become a habit in any given area? Knowing why you want to change will help you sustain the motivation to keep moving forward towards your goals.

5. Mastering the Art of Starting Over

It’s not a matter of when life will throw challenges and obstacles in the way of your progress, it’s how often. When this happens, you will need to remind yourself of what’s important to you, what next action you need to take to get back on track and, simply, start over. Developing this type of resilience is crucial to sustaining the habits and behaviors you want for your best and healthiest self.

Coaching vs. Self-Coaching

Formal Coaching

Formal coaching is a powerful partnership based upon the changes you want to make and what’s important to you.

Together, we will work as a team to help you set realistic, practical goals and actionable strategies to achieve results. You bring a commitment to improvement; I, as your coach, complement that with a client-centered, personalized process which includes guidance, support and recommendations for resources to help you progress, build confidence, succeed and maintain momentum.

As your coach, I help hold you accountable to make positive changes and sustain accomplishments. I will ask powerful questions that provide opportunities for self-awareness and insight, and invite reflection and new perspectives.

Research indicates that changing habits can be challenging, even when people are highly motivated, and that change can sometimes be overwhelming or unsettling. As a seasoned coach, I help clients build self-assurance, identify obstacles that may arise, and plan to successfully overcome them.


Self-coaching is the ability to tap into your own inner wisdom and experiences to determine what is right or best for you. Seeing yourself as a work in progress as you move towards the habits, behaviors and, ultimately, the life you want to live will help you take the necessary actions to do so.

If you are ready to guide your own growth and transition, self-coaching is for you.

Where to start?

This site is designed for you to guide your own journey via self-coaching.

Identify what changes you need to make in what areas of your life: health, financial, relationships, spiritual, professional. Go to the Ritual Section for more insights.

Pick one area you are willing to begin work on and follow this process:

  1. Educate yourself on the area or life ritual where you determine you need to enhance or change.
  2. Determine where you are by compassionate assessment.
  3. Determine where you would like to be: the goal.
  4. Ask yourself, what’s possible?
  5. Determine what your first action needs to be and do it.
  6. Move on to the next action and do it.
  7. Repeat for your next ritual.

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